Monday, 29 June 2015

My 2015 Adventures ~ New Horizons



Hello lovelies <3

So what do you know... We have another adventure on our hands. This one has no time limit and who knows where it will take me. 

A quick recap of what went down after I came back from my UK/EU adventure. My contract didn't work out, I moved out of my house and back to Addo (Even if it was only living there for a grand total of two weeks) and at least 2 guys reminded me what twats they can be. Yip that's it in a nutshell! 

There were times when it really did feel like my life was dragging, nothing was happening and I was going absolutely no where. Packing up that huge house, mostly on my own, was quite painful as it brought up soooo many memories and I found things that have been long since forgotten about. Finally one Saturday morning I called my Mom and asked my parentals for help and to get out of that house as soon as possible. 

Two facts that came up during this entire transition as gentle reminders: 
  • Some people only stick around for the good times and bail on you when the going gets rough
  • Some people only miss you when you go away
I was happy with my decision, the only sad part was moving away from some people that I became even closer with over the past year. True friendships last over any distance though. With technology these days you can stay connected no matter where you are in the world or even reconnect after many years! Which is exactly what happened with 4 friends from abroad. (And thanks to this wonderful thing called a blog I can take you with me wherever I go *tee hee*)



Oh wow... :) Look how young we were back then!!! I met them all in the USA in 2004. 

So after a lot of blood, sweat, sore muscles and a lot of packing/unpacking... I was settled into my new/old room in Addo. I split my stuff between the Addo house and my room in Sundays River. I did such a good job of donating stuff I no longer needed and with a sore heart some of my books, (but I still have an fully packed bookshelf.. I just could not find the heart to let go of some of my series that I collected over the past few years). 

Even though I was constantly busy with something, I discovered an important fact about myself. As nice as the idea seems to take a while to sort out my life and gets some direction... one week later I was praying for something to come through for me. I discovered I am not a 'stay-at-home' anything!!! This motivated me even more to get moving and go abroad one way or another (a few more marriage proposals included).

You know on this point of marriage proposals... I wonder what one of them would do if I actually turned around and said 'yes lets go with that plan'. Do you think they would follow through? 

Anyway moving on... 

This was followed by a sequence of events: 
  • Monday I prayed and said... Please send me something and I will accept the next opportunity that comes my way. 
  • Tuesday  I posted on Facebook about where to next and did one of those online test I see all the time on Facebook: What is your spiritual gift? 
  • Wednesday  morning I received an opportunity to see if I was interested in going to teach English in Thailand.
  • Thursday  I booked my flights to Bangkok.
Friday I went through to Port Elizabeth to wrap up some lose ends and say a proper Goodbye to my nephew Nathan and sister Zena. Wow that was quite hard. I have always gone out of my way to be there for him. Being so far away... yeah it is just hard. But I left him with a way so that we can stay in contact and Skype at least once a month :) 

After a lot of emotion I went out to Sundays River to celebrate my Dad's birthday! 

Saturday I went through to PE again and had a ball of fun with Kendall and Ed at the Music Festival. We left music festival at about 6ish (I think) and made out way down to Kendall's Dad's birthday dinner. First we needed to go convince Carrick to join us and drag him out of his apartment - one way or another! 

Carrick and I ended up not going to the dinner though, instead we got ice-cream and went to the reservoir over looking PE. That view is just too beautiful for words. It was random, it was fun and it was memorable.  

Sunday we made an awesome breakfast which Kendall and I loved and well... Carrick pretended to enjoy, bless him. Then I headed out to Addo as it was Fathers Day where we chilled on the farm and watched the Grand Prix. #GoVettel
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So the day arrived where I would be leaving PE!!! 
I started off by going to get my hair done because I don't know when I will have the chance again to cut or colour it again!

Might I add I got lost in Despatch... Yes I know.. *Shock Horror Gasp* google maps didn't have the road I was looking for and other than the main road... the streets were poorly marked!

I packed up the last few things before my Mom and I left Addo. Even though I was only flying out on Tuesday, I decided to break up the trip and visit some family that I haven't seen in a while. 

Tuesday arrived and you know what... It really didn't feel real yet!! I arrived at the airport at 11 but I could only check in at 12. There was a mess up with my ticket but luckily we were able to sort it out and I was able to check in. It was my first time flying with Qatar and they were quite professional. I boarded at 2 and we left at 3. The flight was 8 hours and I must say they had a great selection of movies and music. They have the best food I have had on a flight but a very tasteless snack and minimal beverages. I was dying of thirst!!

I sat next to a really nice young girl and her gran who had us laughing quite a bit. The German host dude was quite moody - he even moaned at us when we went to the toilet. There were also quite a few turbulents! 

My stop over was in Doha. Initially I didn't even realise where this was... Its in the Middle East. I would really love to actually go there sometime as well as Dubai :) 

We landed in Doha at  12:30/1:30am (they are 1 hr ahead) and I had minimal time to spare to get to next flight! I stood there staring at flight board for like 10 minutes before I found my flight and gate. Luckily the gate was close by. Can you believe they changed my seat after I checked in specifically to reserve my seat and there was nothing I could do about it! I was not impressed but what can I do... Upon landing it was only 41 degrees! 

My flight was at 1:50am to Bangkok. The thing about travelling between time zones is I didn't know which time to run on! Thank goodness it was only a 6 hour flight and not a 9 hr one like I thought.

On the flight I continued watching the series forever, some music videos and listened to music instead of watching movies.

It was kinda weird getting to the Bangkok Airport and knowing exactly where to go! I breezed through Immigration. I can hardly believe I was here in March 2013 last. Its a freaking long walk to immigration let me tell you... you walk walk walk and then walk some more. They are probably trying to make up for you sitting in one position/chair for so long!

I picked up my luggage, exchanged some money and made my way to local departures to book a flight to Hat Yai. I decided to fly with Thai Smile. What a happy flight it was. I had a 2 hour wait before my next flight so I connected to the airport wifi, and contacted the important people!!

Thailand is:
5 hrs ahead of  RSA
6 hrs ahead of UK
11 - 14 hrs ahead of USA


Its actually crazy... Here you cannot assume anyone here speaks English!!! In total I spent 17 hours just on the plane over 3 days!!!

Anyway Lovelies... See you in the next post about arriving in Hat Yai!!

Peace out 
x


Saturday, 27 June 2015

Ending off my 2015 trip to the UK and Germany

Chanzie's  2015

Travel Adventures:

~ Wrapping it all up ~




Hello Everyone!! 

Wow life has just been crazy and every day just races by.. before I know it, it is the end of the day and I haven't even had a minute to sit down and edit a post for you. I have been making notes though for future posts. 

So the UK trip was literally one of the most amazing things I have ever done and definitely one of the most life changing decisions too. Those two extra weeks, literally changed my life. 

I thought this post would be a nice way to end off this series of posts, listing a few of my favourite memories!

Favourite memories: 


Andrew: 
I would definitely have to say... Going to Mercedes Benz World!!! Plus discovering Woody's and Strawberry cider...

Jaydine: 

Sheesh only one... well... I'll take the night out in London! That was so much fun from the the morning right up until partying into the next morning.


Colinda: 
I am pretty sure you will all guess it has to be the paragliding on the hill with Dave and Lawrie!!


Athena:
Oh wow... Ummm.... Besides the Life-Changing Ice-cream... I am going to take the German UEFA Football game!!

Favourite UK encounter: 
I have 2... 

The first one was the Spanish Dude I had a random conversation with at Harrods after I got horrible lost in London and on Knights Bridge. 

Secondly, it has to be meeting and making a new friend randomly on a train! Any of my good friends will know that it was my trip back from Jaydine to Andrew before I went to Germany, where I by chance became friends with the one and only non-scary looking dude that works at the BBC... Alex! Yeah he is cool. Your loss if you don't know him.


Favourite food: 
In the UK.... Scampi!!!!
In Germany... the life-changing dessert at the Autostadt <3


Favourite drink: 
Strawberry Cider!!!!


Favourite shop: 
Primark Baby!!!!! oh oh... and the gadget shop in Derby.

42 days in a nutshell!!! Thank you for going on the adventure with me and following my take on things. 

I have so much more to tell you so stay tuned for the next adventure

Peace out
x


Monday, 15 June 2015

MWYA Random Ramblings ~ My take on love ~



Hello you beauties!!!


This is the post I was inspired to write while I was abroad! It is probably the first inspiration I have had since November. It's my take on love and where I stand on it at the moment. Everyone has and is entitled to their own opinion and this is purely my own. 

Am I an expert on love? NO. 
Do I have all the answers? NO. 
I have been through a lot and yet I still believe in true love. 
But here is what I think...

What you actively pursue will evade you. When you are ready and content with life. Not needing it. It will come to you. Whatever it is that you need at that point in time. So yes I have been in a long term relationship. We were in love. We dated for 5 years before we got engaged. We took a year to plan the perfect wedding, 2 years later we got divorced. I am not here to talk about why it failed. 

So if you reading it for that, move on and close the post.

After being through the most painful thing I have ever been through in my life, a divorce. It is one of those things you will never truly understand until you have been through it, no matter how compassionate and empathetic of a person you might be. I don't wish it upon anybody and definitely don't want to go through it again. 

Do I still believe in true love? Yes. 
Do I deserve it? Yes. 
Will I find it? Well I hope so, but I am not looking for it. 

I am just trying to be the best version of myself I can be while fulfilling my dreams and trying to live a life I will remember with no regrets. I wouldn't change a thing about my life because I wouldn't be who I am today. The good and the rough have shaped me. I do sometimes wish I knew then what I know now but I have always made the best decisions I could at that point in time with the knowledge and wisdom I had. 

I often miss things that are quite obvious. I can't help it. I don't look for it and some self doubt always plays a part. I can see when there is love between other people. I respect other people's relationships. Yet when I like a guy, I am never truly sure if he likes me too. Two of my friends, Jaydine & Jamie, recommended a book: He is just not that into you.  Hmmmm... this seems like such a desperate book to read but hey, I love reading and I love learning. Especially when it comes to the way people think and how they operate. 

About a month before I left for the UK, I decided you know what... No more running after a guy's affections. If they like me, they'll make the effort. Because you know what... I am worth it. That simple. So I began putting it into practise. This book supports my entire theory! Here is it... if they like you, they will make the effort. Get your number (From you or a friend), find you on facebook... in other words... simply track you down. And he will talk to you because he wants to. No matter how busy his day is. He will message you and keep the conversation going. Its not up to you to drive the entire thing. It is mutual. He'll stick around.

People may not tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you.
Pay attention

Now now not every guy you get a friend request from on FB is your potential boyfriend. I mean they will show you that they are interested. I'm not up for games. If they playing games.... then they just not that into you! And I am not saying play hard to get either. It's simple a balance of give and take. Not begging for attention.

With my past 3 boyfriends I thought they were out of my league and I would normally think.. He can't like me because I'm not that amazing. Yes I am.

This new philosophy was like a huge 'aha' moment. Be confident. Own who you are. Be who you want to be. If you not who you want to be, start being that person today. #JustOwnIt It's that simple. I liked a pair of sunglasses, did they suit me? Maybe not. Did I care? No. I wear them anyway because I don't care what anyone else thinks.

I wish I knew then what I know now. My entire life would have been different. I spent so much time trying to make other people happy and worrying about what they thought, that I almost never put myself first. Yeah I get it, it will change when you have kids, but I don't have kids right now. But I will one day with the right person.

I never put myself above others, I will always be considerate but if a decision is in my own best interests, I need to do what is right for me. If I don't love me and put myself first, no one else is going to do it for me.

I don't love in half measures. I never have and I never will. I will give time to those who make time for me. I am also not out to find love, love will find me. I am making friends where ever I go and just being my authentic self.

I'm making the most out of my life. Living life to the fullest and doing all the crazy fun things I want to do. Starting over at 29 was overwhelming and scary. But I'm embracing it. Doing handstands at parties, paragliding over Ashbourne or ice-skating with my 14 year old cousin and falling so hard your knee is purple and black... who cares I am having fun and loving it!

Love me or leave me.
This is who I am.

Much love 
x


Sunday, 14 June 2015

My 2015 Adventure: Day 42

Chanzie's  2015

Travel Adventures:

The Groot Trek home



Hello lovelies

Wow it has finally come to the end of this amazing adventure and time to wrap things up. I have learnt so much and met so many amazing people that have helped me grow, heal and learn a few lessons a long the way. 

Things are not always as simple as they seem to be and more likely than not... it's never about what you think it is. Unfortunately it is human nature and tendency to take most things personally. It takes a strong woman to love again after her heart has been broken. A huge heartbreak is painful and a subsequent heart break can be hurt just as much. It's not fair on anyone but that is the way it works. Sometimes we already know the answers, we just want to face it... and you know what... that's ok!! It's ok to deal with stuff when you ready, just know it will always need to be dealt with (unfortunately), and that which doesn't kill us, makes us stronger and wiser. 

Day 42 (Thursday 30/04)

It's the groot trek home!! I woke up at 5:50am and just couldn't get back to sleep. I lay awake snuggling with Lee til she woke up. Dave made me a yummy breakfast, before I needed to get my butt into gear and start packing.

It took me about an hour and a bit to pack my life back into my bags and sort it all out. I had a quick skype session with my Mom and then we were off to Birmingham New Street train station. I was not looking forward to dragging all my luggage across all the platforms but it will be for the last time for a while. I was heart broken and happy all at the same time.The friends I made here snuck into my heart without me even realising it.

Lee - my beautiful amazing gorgeous cousin. She is so good and her heart shines like a beautiful star. She doesn't even realise how beautiful she is. Her soft beautiful heart is such a gift to the world.

Kristen - who at first I thought looked like a unhappy chappy and confused puppy, became a close friend really quickly (it even caught me off guard).

Ash - the quiet reserve who doesn't do crowds if he has a choice and really reminds us all of Sheldon from Big Bang in most ways. Socially awkward. I decided we were gonna be friends and he didn't stand a chance .... wahahaha.

An interesting perspective: life is all about balance. The giver and the receiver of any situation. I love it when you realise you are on the opposite end of something to where you might have been the other side previously. Thank you for the lessons.

So I thought I would be able to make it to only buying food at Heathrow. I was wrong. I ended up going to get a burrito from the same place Jaydine and I went when we were our way back from London and let me tell you that burrito tasted a million times better than the last time. Maybe its because I didn't have a hangover. Maybe it was comfort food because I didn't want to leave. Maybe it was both. Best burrito ever!!!

After this amazing meal, I made my way down to my seat on the train. Thank goodness it was not on the other end of the station this time round. #SmallMercies
The secret is to arrive early so that you can get the luggage storage space!!! This is something I learnt very quickly. I was comfy and content but by the time I got to Rugby it hit me I was leaving and I just started crying and missing the people that had crept into my heart. Such hope yet such uncertainty lay in my future. 

Once the main trip was done I made my way across the stations and was on time to the airport. I checked in and made my way down to the waiting area with a 2.5 hour wait ahead of me. I spoke to some friends on whatsapp and skype before I headed down to board the plane. 

It was a pretty empty flight and I was seated next to a lady called Mimi. The plane left 40 minutes late but I am sure we made up for it somewhere along the way. After take off Mimi moved and I got to sleep across 2 seats. I watched Jupiter Rising, which I was a tad disappointed in as I had wanted to watch this movie so badly before it went off the circuit and The Maze, which I thoroughly enjoyed!!!

Let me tell you... I was dying of heat when I made it through the Johannesburg airport and re-checked in for Port Elizabeth. Moerig was an understatement. I boarded the plane for PE and after clearing out some space for my hand luggage, I bent down to pick up my bag and an old man just stole my space and put his bag in the spot I just worked so hard to clear. (And yes I did work hard as I am short and had to climb on the seats and rearrange a few things to clear a spot). 

After settling in my sear I ordered a red wine to chill my nerves. It really did help *tee hee*. 

Landing in PE was not the home coming feeling I thought it might be. I was over the moon to see my awesome parentals. I did miss them a lot but other than that there wasn't that 'deep breath in I have arrived home' moment. 

On the way home we got some KFC because I was starving! We dropped off my luggage at the house and went straight to buy some stuff at Checkers for a braai my parentals organised that evening with a few of my closest friends. I did happen to have a bit of a mini anxiety episode in the shop though. I was tired, sore and seriously needed a shower!!!

The braai was awesome and it sort of felt like I hadn't even been away. My mom even made dessert! They did not (Unfortunately) appreciate the British humour I picked up or the few words I used with my best British accent.

Sleeping in my own bed was AMAZING as well as cuddling with my gorgeous kitties.

xxx

Can you believe that I picked up a freaking cold!!! Really????

On a final note, it is good to be home but I left my heart in Ashbourne <3 I didn't miss PE only the people. 

Who knows what my future holds and where I will really end up. I'll keep you up to date and hopefully have a few more travel adventures up my sleeve!!!

Peace out 
xxx


Wednesday, 10 June 2015

My 2015 Adventure: Day 40 and 41

Chanzie's  2015

Travel Adventures:

7 ways to spot an EC girl 

Bookers



Hello lovelies!!

Wow time sure does fly and sometimes it seems like obstacle after obstacle appears on the way... So I have been without a laptop for a long long time now! It has been so frustrating in some ways and a very good detox in a lot of other ways. 

Life can be simple and you could be content for the longest of times and then you go through phases where things change on a weekly, if not daily bases. The thing I have learnt over the past week is that if you don't know what it is exactly that you want, or have a good (even if it's vague idea) how will you know where you going? Whether it be in your life/career/relationship. 

I will tell you one thing, the dating world can be a very overwhelming place when you have been out of the 'game' for such a long time. Honestly, I have no time for games. I have time for fun and good times, but not this uncertain game nonsense. One of my best friends told me I wasn't ready to start dating again and to tell you the truth, he was probably right... but I am not going to tell him that *tee hee* 

My heart has only just put it self back together and well I am just not ready to risk another heartbreak right now and lose myself.. I only just started figuring things out!!! I will do some posts about my revelations as soon as I have caught up on all my holiday posts. So lets get down to the good stuff. 

Day 40 (Tuesday 28/04)

Today was a chill day again!! The first part of the morning I did not move from the couch. I had my duvet, laptop & ipod and was very cozy. After successfully finishing & posting an update, (between Facebook & chatting on whatsapp) I made my way down to Colinda to get out a bit and have a cappuccino! 

I think I literally almost died with laughter after reading this post. (7 ways to spot and EC girl)I read Colinda the part about #SqueakSomeTekkie, as I was taking a sip of coffee, she commented about it - I Laughed, breathed and swallowed at the same time. Yeah it didn't end to well.


There isn't much more to update about! I skyped with my friend Phil & cousin Athena.

Day 41 (Wednesday 29/04)

My second last day in the UK!!!  I went into Derby with Dave and Colinda. We walked around the shopping centre for a bit. I was so good... I kept my shopping addiction to a minimum. I had KFC with Colinda. (You know as much as I love KFC... the UK's tastes a bit different to SA's) 
From there we went to Bookers Wholesalers to shop for some stuff for the B&B. You know how I knew I was adapting to the UK... I barely felt the difference between the freezer for the fresh food and outside... is that a good thing? *tee hee* It barely bugged me.

My heart was singing that day. I could tell you why but I wont. *sorry* 

I really am excited about my future. There are so many things I am stoked to buy when I come back and  just so many things to look forward to!!

For my last eve in the UK, Kristen and Ash came over for supper as a farewell. We had burgers for supper and Ben&Jerry's for dessert. There were so many tears and so much laughter. I don't think I've ever bonded with and felt loved so much in such a short time by such awesome people before. To end off the eve, we all went to sit and cuddle in the garden chairs outside (it really wasn't too cold), listen to music and stare at the stars. It feels like I am leaving pieces of my heart behind. Things probably won't be the same when I get back but I have loved every moment of  it!!

After Kristen and Ashley left, Lee and I went to snuggle in bed and chatted til we both fell asleep. 

Peace Out
xx